Detail is at sixes and sevens at the moment, and this is a state she can’t cope with. She needs to be in control. Outwardly nothing much has changed between the two of them. When they are out shopping together, Minor follows her mother with a sour-face and when they bump into acquaintances, she waits patiently until Detail has exchanged the latest news. This is a feat on its own as Detail is as sweet as ever and interested in other people. She always wants to know more and her conversations are never short.
But when they are at home, we hear plenty of screaming matches with high pitched voices, followed by prolonged silences. It must be clear – even for the most dull-witted of the Dedes – that something is going on.
I asked Detail what Philosopher said to her on Saturday, very dispirited she replied: “Pretty much the same thing as ArtistatExit0 said in his comment to the post. In a nutshell, they think making mistakes is a necessary, yet painful, part of the learning process. There is absolutely nothing I can do about it, except to be there when Minor needs me. But why can’t she learn from my experience?”
And then she went on to tell me how much she sacrificed for the girl, she always wanted the best for her and what a lovely girl she was when she was little, then she always listened. Now as a mother, she could throttle this Rob, Minor calls her b o y f r i e n d, he must have seduced her daughter, even drugged her, why else wouldn’t she listen anymore. Wouldn’t you think, she would know by now that her mother always knows best…
It was a barrage of words, unedited and difficult to make sense of.
“I just can’t take this anymore” she said to me in tears. “I don’t want her to make the same silly mistakes I did. I wish I had listened to my mother!”
“If you had listened to your mother” I said, “you wouldn’t have this beautiful daughter of yours! Would you?”
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So many painful lessons to learn in life. It’s a rare individual who learns from others’ mistakes. Detail and Minor need to take a time out and hug one another to reaffirm their mother/daughter love. Care should be taken not to say wounding words that can’t be taken back and remembered forever.
Yes, hugs are a wonderful peacemaker. But unfortunately it is all too fresh and they are not ready yet. They are still wallowing in their own hurt… I only hope they heed your advice and don’t say anything too hurtful to each other.