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5 pillars-3

Okay, back to my Pecha Kucha presentation. Sorry that it is a bit fragmented. The publication of the Artist’s Survival Cookbook was late breaking news. I am now up to slide 7. You might recall, my presententation is about “why I play with puppets”. I began creating the Dedes in 2012. They started out as No Bodies and I couldn’t quite put my finger on why I do it. They just imposed themselves on me. In the meantime I have figured out that they are a wonderful tool to enhance emotional intelligence. This is the subject of my Pecha Kucha presentation. Pecha Kucha presentations have the format of 20 slides and the presenter can talk for 20 seconds to each slide. There is not much one can say :).  Now I am up to the 4th pillar of Emotional Intelligence: People skills.

People skills: Those who are emotionally intelligent avoid power struggles and backstabbing. They usually enjoy other people, and can honestly give credit where credit is due. They easily earn respect from others. Keep in mind, respect has to be earned, it cannot be demanded. In fact all these characteristics (self-awareness, self-motivation, empathy and people skills) go hand in hand and follow each other.

empathy

Empathy is compassion and understanding of human nature. It enables you to respond genuinely to others’ concerns. Empathy doesn’t mean you take on other people’s fights, rather you support them to find their own way. Think about why you are fighting for something: is it because someone else wants you to, or it will benefit you or benefit the wider society (this come back to self-awareness and motiviation).

Playing with puppets is a wonderful tool to understand where others are coming from. But understanding is not everything, sometimes it simply makes you sick when you clearly see injustice, but can’t do anything about it. The heart bleeds, when you have to watch helplessly how some people in a powerless postition are walked over by people with self-serving motivation. I have been in this situation for the last 15 month. I tried what I could, but finally had to walk away. The bully was simply stronger (they usually are).  At least I know that the people I supported will remember me for the rest of their lives even though I couldn’t help in the end. As life is closely entwined with my art, I have decided that my next book will be an Emotional Intelligence workbook by the Dedes. But first I have to find my creativity and my humour again :)

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Motivation is the second pillar of emotional intelligence, in particular where your motivation stems from. For emotional intelligent people the motivation comes from within. External motivators such as money, titles or status symbols  are less important, as is the approval from friends and teachers or other people you would like to impress.

In my opinion – and you can argue with me here – your true motivations for your actions (the ones only you will know) will indicate whether you are self-aware or self-centred. If you are motivated by your true and honest beliefs, you are aware. When you need approval from the outside you are self-centred.

5 pillars

After my late-breaking news yesterday, I am back with my Pecha Kucha presentation about “Why I play with puppets”. Okay, here is the first pillar of Emotional Intelligence: Self-awareness.

This is an understanding of who you are and taking responsibility for your actions. Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses and how your actions affect others. It is not the same as being self-centred. Self-centred people believe the world ows them. Sorry guys, it doesn’t. But don’t worry, when you are in you late teens or early twenties, you are allowed to be a little self-centred as you have to find out who you really are, not who your parents and peers and teachers try to tell you you are. By the end of your tweens the self-centredness should have morphed into self-awareness. If not – it’s time to get worried!

devil feet

So what does Emotional Intelligence mean? To say it in the words of a layperson: it is the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes without being walked over.

And this is where the puppets have been invaluable for me. Here Devil takes measure of my feet to see if the shoe fits. To come up with all the puppet stories, one has to be an excellent observer and understand human interaction.

Before I go on I will quickly run through the 5 pillars of Emotional Intelligence. These are the traits employers are looking for:

  • Self-awareness
  • Motivation
  • Empathy
  • People skills
  • Self-regulation

I will explain those in the next slides.